Church can be painful for singles

[southernphotini]

Some days, like today, I skip church simply because it’s painful to be surrounded by happy families.

Even more painful is when happily married church ladies try to set you up with the weird dude who has no social skills simply because he’s single.

It’s a weird dynamic to be surrounded by good men who take care of their families and yet be pushed at broken men as your only option.

 

[NBTX11]

Would encourage you to stay in church if you can. The church is not perfect and has many flawed people. They're generally wrong on this issue of marriage. However, God may give you a nugget from his word that you needed today. We also need the fellowship and encouragement from other Christians in other ways.

 

[professionalrespect97@gma]

I understand fully. High guailitie ladies are rare and I myself have had multiple times people try to push broken ladies on me. They try to force them on me without actually thinking of the ramifications. My standards are high and I will not compromise my self. I can tell your standards are high to. Do not sacrifice your standards

 

[primrose]

Would encourage you to stay in church if you can. The church is not perfect and has many flawed people. They're generally wrong on this issue of marriage. However, God may give you a nugget from his word that you needed today. We also need the fellowship and encouragement from other Christians in other ways.

I agree. There are times when stepping away makes sense and other times where we receive just what we needed to in that moment.

 

[NBTX11]

There are times when we need to leave a church. But we as Christians were meant to be around other Christians. Early Christians met in homes together in the book of Acts. It's so important for us to be around other Christians.

If you're interested in polygyny, you'll most likely have to explore those options outside of the church though. I am not aware of any mainstream denominations that support plural marriage. Are there any?

 

[Mark C]

It’s a weird dynamic to be surrounded by good men who take care of their families and yet be pushed at broken men as your only option.

Sadly, in a broken church in a broken world that's the status quo. It's why He says, "come out of her, MY people..."

I am not aware of any mainstream denominations that support plural marriage. Are there any?

By definition (of the waste-stream itself) - No.

And besides, their corporate 501c(3) master would straighten 'em right out.

 

[Patricia C]

Some days, like today, I skip church simply because it’s painful to be surrounded by happy families.

Even more painful is when happily married church ladies try to set you up with the weird dude who has no social skills simply because he’s single.

It’s a weird dynamic to be surrounded by good men who take care of their families and yet be pushed at broken men as your only option.

I have done the same. I find it difficult to go back. I don’t feel I have a place. The things I have to offer someone else already does therefore I am not needed. My contributions are not appreciated or valued. When I go I am excluded from the gatherings because it is families gathering together so then the older women (much older) get together and they do invite me. It is kind of like when I was a kid and my dad would tell me, to old for toys to young for boys. To single for families and to young for … whatever you want to call it.

What I have done… you can take it or leave it. I am sure you will find what works best for you. Find a teacher you enjoy online and listen to them for spiritual nourishment, seek out a home group, find fellowship with others that share your beliefs. I used to have a single lady’s Friday Shabbat dinner at my house. There are many opportunities if we seek them out

I hope you find your place

 

[Joleneakamama]

Even more painful is when happily married church ladies try to set you up with the weird dude who has no social skills simply because he’s single.

I got set up once by a lady at church...but I had nothing in common with her single nephew.

It’s a weird dynamic to be surrounded by good men who take care of their families and yet be pushed at broken men as your only option.

My sw said that st the church she attended the married ladies never befriended her...she felt like they saw her as a threat...like their husbands might cheat with her. She hoped they might introduce her to someone....but that never happened......and the single men at that church were in the rehabilitation program, so men with drug issues....convictions for drug charges.

It is kind of like when I was a kid and my dad would tell me, to old for toys to young for boys. To single for families and to young for … whatever you want to call it.

My thought was ...too young for a rocking chair....maybe because my mind started playing this song.

I know with faith you already have a sure love in Messiah.. ..but that isn't the same as the comfort and companionship of people that you belong with.

((Hugs)) to you Patricia!

 

[Patricia C]

I got set up once by a lady at church...but I had nothing in common with her single nephew.

My sw said that st the church she attended the married ladies never befriended her...she felt like they saw her as a threat...like their husbands might cheat with her. She hoped they might introduce her to someone....but that never happened......and the single men at that church were in the rehabilitation program, so men with drug issues....convictions for drug charges.

My thought was ...too young for a rocking chair....maybe because my mind started playing this song.

I know with faith you already have a sure love in Messiah.. ..but that isn't the same as the comfort and companionship of people that you belong with.

((Hugs)) to you Patricia!

Thank you Jolene, that was a good song! And Yes, too young for a rocking chair unless it is to snuggle my grandson.