Polygyny Dream

[TheBaker]

Just wanted to share something. I've been comfortable in monogamy only ideology for most of my life, my wife and I have been married for 16 years. Then in December 2024 God opens my eyes to that fact that those who practice polygyny can still be rightous, disciplined by God, righteousness has been my goal and focus for many years.
2 months after this discovery I have a dream in which I see a beautiful girl and her mom who attend our church. In the dream this girls boyfriend is breaking up with her and she and her mom begin wailing as if dying. At that moment a feeling of intense concern for her and her mom came over me. Since this is all new to me I'm in that initial frenzy phase where I'm thinking of possible options of wives all the time. I've been praying about how to deal with this dream, I want to act in wisdom and not foolishly, but I worry about her finding a boyfriend so that makes me in a hurry to act.
Let me also mention that in real life this girl seems to be avoiding me, I think it's because she thinks it would be sinful to get close to a married man.
Has anyone had any similar experiences or dreams?

 

[FollowingHim]

Has anyone had any similar experiences or dreams?

Yes, because we all went through this:

Since this is all new to me I'm in that initial frenzy phase where I'm thinking of possible options of wives all the time.

And what you think about a lot in the daytime you also dream about at night.

Right now it's all new and exciting and confusing, so of course your mind finds someone cute, then dreams a potential scenario that could get her into your arms. Forget this girl, as if you do anything at this early stage you'll do something stupid and mess up your marriage, or your standing in the church, or something else. Recognise polygamy as a true option in theory for specific situations where it makes sense, and just sit on that knowledge. Let it simmer. When the time is right, work through it with your wife, but still as a theoretical concept only (no actual potential woman in mind, no suggestion that you intend to do it). Once she's then had enough time to process it and truly accept it, if that is the result - and although she may accept it logically sooner it will take a good year or two at least for her to accept it emotionally - then you'll be in a position to listen to God's leading on whether he actually intends you to do something with this knowledge yourself, or if he's shown you this for another reason. And by that stage you'll be past the crazy emotions stage yourself also and able to make wiser decisions on it also.

 

[frederick]

Let me also mention that in real life this girl seems to be avoiding me, I think it's because she thinks it would be sinful to get close to a married man.

Yup, that's the thinking most women in western countries have been indoctrinated with. Your wife very likely thinks the same, so I'd recommend you keep that in mind.

Forget this girl, as if you do anything at this early stage you'll do something stupid and mess up your marriage, or your standing in the church, or something else.

Excellent advice!

Has anyone had any similar experiences or dreams?

As Solomon said, There's nothing new under the sun. We all dream.... .