Is It Time to Start Arranged Marriages Again?

[MemeFan]

EDIT: I see Jason Cook likes what I posted, but I just want to add, I wish that Biblical Families had an interactive map that we can see clusters of where people live.

Here, put 2 for kiwis directly in middle:

 

[MeganC]

The churches should be helping in this regard. If a woman turns 18 and wants to be a mother and help raise godly children, then there should always be an option.

And that option should be encouraged and not discouraged.

^^^^

This comment of mine above here is practically a principle to me. And earlier this year it was put to the test when Christie's daughter and my daughter through adoption decided to get legally married after her sixteenth birthday. Myself, I have wanted to see one of the kids go to college. Out of all of our kids so far we have one college graduate and I would like to make it two.

But that was what >> I << wanted.

Emily met a good man who has a good start in life and she fell in love and wanted to be his wife. It took me a while to come around to this idea but I eventually did. She is definitely growing in her new role and I am happy for her.

I guess I am just saying that it's easy to say some of these things in theory but when it's your daughter it isn't necessarily so easy.

Myself, if I could have the proverbial do-over I would have married at sixteen and skipped so much drama. I think a lot of young women would do better in life this way than doing what society encourages and leading a life of personal ruin.

 

[MemeFan]

And that option should be encouraged and not discouraged.

^^^^

This comment of mine above here is practically a principle to me. And earlier this year it was put to the test when Christie's daughter and my daughter through adoption decided to get legally married after her sixteenth birthday. Myself, I have wanted to see one of the kids go to college. Out of all of our kids so far we have one college graduate and I would like to make it two.

But that was what >> I << wanted.

Emily met a good man who has a good start in life and she fell in love and wanted to be his wife. It took me a while to come around to this idea but I eventually did. She is definitely growing in her new role and I am happy for her.

I guess I am just saying that it's easy to say some of these things in theory but when it's your daughter it isn't necessarily so easy.

Myself, if I could have the proverbial do-over I would have married at sixteen and skipped so much drama. I think a lot of young women would do better in life this way than doing what society encourages and leading a life of personal ruin.

Emily can do college while you are busy with her grandchildren.

No time to give up on dreams. Just ...slight...delay.

 

[Daniel DeLuca]

And that option should be encouraged and not discouraged.

^^^^

This comment of mine above here is practically a principle to me. And earlier this year it was put to the test when Christie's daughter and my daughter through adoption decided to get legally married after her sixteenth birthday. Myself, I have wanted to see one of the kids go to college. Out of all of our kids so far we have one college graduate and I would like to make it two.

But that was what >> I << wanted.

Emily met a good man who has a good start in life and she fell in love and wanted to be his wife. It took me a while to come around to this idea but I eventually did. She is definitely growing in her new role and I am happy for her.

I guess I am just saying that it's easy to say some of these things in theory but when it's your daughter it isn't necessarily so easy.

Myself, if I could have the proverbial do-over I would have married at sixteen and skipped so much drama. I think a lot of young women would do better in life this way than doing what society encourages and leading a life of personal ruin.

I don't have a daughter yet. I hope one day I can marry a woman who will give me a baby girl.

 

[Man_in_the_Middle]

I don't have a daughter yet. I hope one day I can marry a woman who will give me a baby girl.

I too would love to have a daughter some day.....Although, my wife swears they are hard to handle!

 

[FollowingHim]

I went to university for many years. Didn't find a wife there, because the women who go to university are of two types. Some actually want a career (and are less interested in being a wife and mother), and wouldn't have suited me. Others would want to be a wife and mother, but went to university to fill in time not knowing what to do, and got themselves saddled with debt studying for a career they never really wanted to do anyway. I found a student-loan-free wife at youth group, and she hasn't worked a day for money since we married. Couldn't possibly have done that if she'd been to university.

Each to their own of course, I am not criticising other choices, you do you. I can understand why @MeganC wanted her daughter to study, and understand why her daughter wanted to just start breeding instead. And I expect the girl knew what was best for herself.

Which shows that as parents we don't actually know what is right for our kids all the time. We can get it wrong. If my parents had chosen a wife for me, they'd have chosen a nice girl, but they wouldn't have chosen @FollowingHim2 - yet she and I knew very well that God intended for us to marry. And almost 20 years later I am very comfortable we made the right choice.

It is good for parents to look for good spouses for their children, to advise them in life, even to suggest that they consider marrying someone. But we must consider ourselves advisors, and not get tempted to be controlling in this.