The Economics of Divorce

[Mojo]

A pretty short read, with thoughts that could potentially be applied to polygyny. The author identifies the economic and even life span detriment to all involved in divorce, mainly due to division of resources. . It would be fascinating if someone could ever perform an analysis on the economic implications of additional resources and economic benefits (polygyny).

As the OP, I’m requesting only comments from those who’ve read this article.

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“It comes as no surprise that divorce is harmful for children. Most would likely highlight the emotional strain imposed on children from the loss of normal relations between parents, but harmful effects can be economic. Dividing the family into two households means lower incomes and financially costly negotiations, which could impact children over the long term.”

 

[Man_in_the_Middle]

Within this article, it stated the following:

These results shouldn’t be surprising. Parenting is a long-term, team project. Early in childhood, parents make plans and establish routines. These plans and routines lay the foundation for the rest of the child’s life. Like any joint project, whether in family, business, or politics, plans are made because the planning process adds value. Scrapping plans is akin to removing an essential part of the foundation.

This highlights the very thing that I encourage men to do all the time. That is, set out to purposefully establish your household. This includes everything from how you want conversation to happen to how you want guests greeted and treated to what individual's talents are going to be funded and encouraged to how people should keep their hygiene etc....

If we do not set about to establish it, it will establish itself. The truth is, a lot of that will sort out as it should naturally but when we observe that it is not shaking out as it should, we need to be purposeful in making changes for the better.

As the article states, these plans and routines are the foundation of our children's futures...

This is not a polygny statement, it is a leadership statement.

 

[Mojo]

And i think these routines, even if not optimum, are what leads to the stability that plays out in the classroom and the businesses of our country. The economic impact is played out years down the road.

 

[MeganC]

The economic impact is played out years down the road.

I would say the economic impact can reverberate for generations. Especially when a well-off family has their financial foundations torn apart by a contentious divorce. The children are then at a disadvantage in society without the financial support of their parents and this can impact the children and their children and grandchildren and etc.

 

[Mojo]

Any thoughts on how increasing the amount of parental influence by way of polygyny might actually be a force multiplier that society and churches aren’t accounting for?

 

[ASyers41]

This is precisely why God wants covering for women and children. God never intended for divorce and 70 percent of women file for Divorce which is unbiblical. Divorce rips children apart not just financially but emotionally and God never intended for Children to be in the middle of the parents arguments and that is exactly what happens when people divorce. Children are the ones that suffer and it goes well beyond the financial implications.

 

[Mojo]

This is precisely why God wants covering for women and children. God never intended for divorce and 70 percent of women file for Divorce which is unbiblical. Divorce rips children apart not just financially but emotionally and God never intended for Children to be in the middle of the parents arguments and that is exactly what happens when people divorce. Children are the ones that suffer and it goes well beyond the financial implications.

Totally agree on all of the above. The article acknowledges the emotional, but focuses on the economic.

Living in a polygynous situation, what is your perspective on how polygyny can have perhaps superior economic outcomes due to the additional layers of support and positive routines? Does your experience so far attest the affirmative?

 

[MemeFan]

Living in a polygynous situation, what is your perspective on how polygyny can have perhaps superior economic outcomes due to the additional layers of support and positive routines? Does your experience so far attest the affirmative?

Only if they don't divorce. Otherwise even bigger mess.

 

[Mojo]

Only if they don't divorce. Otherwise even bigger mess.

This question was directed towards @ASyers41 who is living in a polygynous household.

Please keep responses directed specifically to the article.

 

[MemeFan]

This question was directed towards @ASyers41 who is living in a polygynous household.

Please keep responses directed specifically to the article.

You not seeking/seeing full truth.

You can't expect to make logical error and for all noticers not to write something.

Also, you can't just look at succesfull marriages. You must also look at unsuccessfull marriages. Otherwise, you will get distorted data.

Also, women are sensitive to presection. Other wifes will keep each wife in line. However, if one decides to leave others wives risk of leaving has gone way up.

Maybe @MeganC has more to say.

 

[ASyers41]

Totally agree on all of the above. The article acknowledges the emotional, but focuses on the economic.

Living in a polygynous situation, what is your perspective on how polygyny can have perhaps superior economic outcomes due to the additional layers of support and positive routines? Does your experience so far attest the affirmative?

So we don’t have children together. However, I would affirm that even with extra layers of support there will still be devastating results on all parties involved. Think about it from a logical standpoint a woman does not need to be blood related to a child to see and take care of said child as she would her own flesh and blood and bonds are formed. When bonds are formed and ripping that child away it may very well cause irreparable damage far beyond what you and I may even be capable of understanding. Men are different they don't for the most part want to raise another man's seed. Now some are capable of this but not all. The results of divorce I believe whether in Polygyny or Monogamy are as equally devastating and as Believers we have a moral obligation to make sure we are not quick to run and get divorcement at the simplest things. Divorce is like taking to things apart that are superglued together, You might break one or both of to the point they not able to be fixed. The simplest way I can say it is be careful who you marry because the implications are lifelong and deep.

 

[Mojo]

You not seeking/seeing full truth.

You can't expect to make logical error and for all noticers not to write something.

Also, you can't just look at succesfull marriages. You must also look at unsuccessfull marriages. Otherwise, you will get distorted data.

Also, women are sensitive to presection. Other wifes will keep each wife in line. However, if one decides to leave others wives risk of leaving has gone way up.

Maybe @MeganC has more to say.

This thread is specifically set up to:
A) Have anyone comment on the specific article.
B) comment on how the article relates to polygyny (from practicioners)

 

[Mojo]

So we don’t have children together. However, I would affirm that even with extra layers of support there will still be devastating results on all parties involved.

I acknowledge, and the author of the article acknowledges the negative effects of divorce. The negativity is not in question.

What I’m trying to distill From practicing poly families is if they see the economic BENEFITS that not only intact monogamy brings, but the added benefits of intact polygyny. Do they see it as a net neutral benefit, or is the economic benefit multiplied with additional adult resources to draw from?